Wedding planning and simple in the same sentence…really. Yes, Really. Does planning your wedding have to be an overwhelming experience? NO! It all depends on you and how you focus or don’t focus.
We had a great time at the Rialto Square Theater in Joliet. I will say meeting David Tutera was exciting. There was a definite buzz in the air, you could just feel it. Brides were gathering information, tasting the samples, and finding the deals. It is an exciting time planning a wedding but it is also a sobering one as well. I guess if you have unlimited funds it may not be that tough but for the real world it is a bit of a concern. There is plenty of sticker shock as you start to plan one of the most important days of your life.
There is so much tied up into this day. Your dreams, things you want, thing your Mom wants, things your fiance wants, things his Mom wants….not to mention the emotions of everyone.
What to do, what to do???
Focus! I think there is so much to glean from shows like “My Fair Wedding”, “Say Yes to the Dress”, “Cake Boss”… You can find so much inspiration from these and sites like Weddingwire.com and Theknot.com. Unfortunatley, I think that the focus of a wedding gets lost. Yes the day should be special but what makes this day special?
What makes this day special is not the flowers, not the chivari chairs, not the uplighting… This stuff is fluff and we love fluff. Don’t get me wrong I want my brides to have the most beautiful wedding they ever dreamed of but what I want more for them is to have the most wonderful life they ever thought possible. Planning a wedding is the beginning of a new life. There will be decisions to be made and compromises to be handled. You will have to cope with other people’s feelings.
I hate to break it to you this wedding is NOT all about the Bride. Personally, I think that is the most selfish thing anyone can say, “It’s my day, it is all about me.” There is trouble on the horizon with that mindset. So, be careful while you plan. Please focus on the most important thing, which is your relationship with your soon to be spouse and your families. This involves learning to be tactful. Learning when to speak and when not to speak. I am not saying to get bowled over by other people making decision for your wedding day, I am saying learn people skills. How you handle these issues that come up during this process will say alot for how you will handle things in your marriage. Worry about that! You can learn to communicate with your fiance on how to work things out together. What a concept – working at things TOGETHER! The planning process can bring you closer or it can cause you all kinds of problems that will continue to follow you as the days go by.
I think we get swept away with the excitement and we want that “Fair Wedding.” That is great as long as you keep the focus on your relationship as future husband and wife. This will keep your wedding on track working together with a plan you both agree on.
So may you find happiness as you plan your wedding but may you be wonderfully happy in your marriage all the days of your life.